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Back In Action

Last few months were probably some of the busiest times of my life. Too many good things happened but it also took away all my time.

For starters I had my immigration appointment at the end of May. I cannot tell you the amount of paper work I had to put together for this interview. It was like a full time job with another 40 hours of overtime.

Well The good news is that the interview is over and I finally have my Green Card. I have been fighting immigration for 9 long years to get it and I finally have it.

On the business front the things are going just as good. I have been very busy with one on ones and we recently added 4 student boot camps for students to take advantage of. (Yes I know you don't see them on the site. I won't be teaching any boot camps during next 2 months. I am travelling to Europe and India from middle of July to middle of September. I need to visit my family and friends.)

I am proud to say that our students are getting the best results compared to any other company. I am proud to say that 3 out of 4 students who took 1 on 1 session with me ended up sleeping with a woman within a week of the session if not during the session. Go the review page and read student testimonies. I have added a link to their posts from independent forums so you know I did not make them up.

We have also added a lot of good content during this time on my website. If you have not checked it you should do so right now.

We are also about to release a new edition of Social Mastery Book and we are also about to add couple more Books to help you succeed with women. But I will stay silent until it is done.

We are also about to launch our members only forum within a week. You have to be an active student of Social Skills Institute to get membership to the forum. This forum will probably be the best learning tool out there to improve your success with women.
I will personally be coaching on the forum. More on this later.

Now you know why I did not have any time to post in the last couple of month.

I know I could have asked someone else to write but I believe it is better to give less but good, effective and helpful information than a load of crap that is of no use.

I will be posting more frequently from now on even when I am travelling to India.

Want to succeed---Get the right attitude from Quick.

Once in a while you meet someone who really challenges you. Not only does he challenge you but he also inspires you with his dedication and passion to succeed. I love the Rocky series with Sylvester Stallone. What I like the most about his character is his resilience. He is determined to win. he never gives up no matter how hard things get. In Rocky IV he explains to his son that there are times when he wants to give up inside boxing ring but keeps going one more round. He says it it that one more round that makes all the difference.

This is very true. In my personal experience and from what I have observed, one has to be resilient and determined to succeed. My student this past weekend was that resilient and determined student. Now I openly claim that my sessions are not easy. They are not for faint hearts but for brave hearts but no one have I ever pushed as far as I pushed this student. If I were to speak in terms of movie Rocky he was Apollo taking the beating from Drago. But he was almost like Rocky. He wanted to succeed so bad that he kept fighting and did not give up.

His desire to put through my intensive boot camp to succeed actually inspired me. I have gotten a little too busy lately and have been feeling a bit overwhelmed. This morning when I woke up I felt very energized. This is because my student ended up reminding me what I teach: If I want to be successful I have to be resilient and persist. That success does not come by itself you have to earn it with your hard work.

This student of mine goes by the name "Quick". I hope we all can learn and inspire ourselves from his winning attitude. He may not be a winner yet in the material sense but he already has a winning attitude. I am willing to bet every penny I will earn in my life that one day this guy will make something out of himself.

I was so impressed with his resilience that I wanted to share it with you all. I want you all to know that if you want to succeed with women you need to be dedicated, persistent and resilient like Quick. If you do that I guarantee you success in every field be it picking up women or making million dollars.

So write down your goals and persist them with dedication being resilient to obstacles and watch what happens.

Thanks Quick for reminding me what I need to do to succeed!

Good Luck!

Do You Persist With Passion?

Do you persist with passion or have you become an entertainer? Generally speaking your approach will not lead to any success if you do not persist and show passion. Students who have been in the community for some time have unfortunately developed some bad habits. Not showing passion or lack of persistence is definitely among them.

Many students have been taught that persisting and showing passion is a sign of neediness. They have been told that they should demonstrate a non caring attitude. I do not agree that passion and persistence is neediness. A confident guy can be passionate and persistent. Watch any movie which depicts the story of medieval time. You will notice that the prince or the lead would be passionate and persistent yet non needy. Few names that comes to my mind are "The First Knight" and "Shakespeare in Love". Watch the performance of Richard Gere and Joseph Fiennes in these movies. You will witness passionate and persistent characters who are non needy.

Being passionate is a wonderful quality. There is a reason why 11 out of 10 movies have passion in them. And guys who do not persist actually come across as insecure as oppose to confidant. So a woman says she does not like you touching her and you leave or she says she has a boyfriend and you leave shows you do not care in a wrong way.

8 out of 10 girls I have dated in the past were in a relationship when I met them. It did not bother me that they were seeing someone else and it did not stop me from persisting. In my mind I thought: "I am attracted to you. I will do what it takes to make you mine and you will not let it happen if you don't want it to happen. But you having a boyfriend is not my problem and I will persist."

Now remember there is a difference between persistence and stalking. I wouldn't start stalking her or embarrass her under the pretext of persistence. This is a topic in itself and some day I will blog about the differences between persistence and neediness/stalking.

The thing that I want you to take from this post is that stop being the entertainer. Yes it is good to have fun and laughter but also be serious. reveal your agenda to get her and then push things to make it happen. There is no shame in wanting a woman. You are only paying her compliments with this behavior. Just make sure not to make her feel embarrassingly uncomfortable. If you do this she will see a man in you even if she does not sleep with you. You will notice her flirting with you will never end. She will get turned on every time she sees you. And she will thank you for making her feel like a woman, for making her feel desirable and for paying her compliments.

So many times it is simply your persistence that will get the girl. So don't be afraid to persist with passion and stop being the entertainer.

Good Luck!

Do You Have An End Goal?

Over and Over I see students getting lost in elements of the game. They are so focused on practicing and delivering particular elements of the game that they forget to set an end goal or to pursue one.

Very often I will notice a student who will approach a woman and deliver his opener or routine or whatever else he had in his mind then bail out. When you ask them what happened some will relay happiness that they delivered their element and others will claim they did not know what to do do next. After following this routine they start to get frustrated that their approaches do not go anywhere. As a consequence they end up buying new products or routines hoping that will change things for them which usually does not.

The problem here is not lack or routine but incorrect end goal. When you go out to meet a woman your end goal has to be more than delivering an opener or a routine. You end goal can be anything from getting a date to pulling her home but not delivering an opener or a routine.

I know one of you who is a real beginner is thinking but I am not even comfortable with opener so why should I go to the next step with mastering my opening. Very simple because you have already opened this girl or set of girls. Why would you walk away from her and open another girl when you can continue with her. You might do this because you fear you are not ready or because you do not feel confident.

You feel scared or not confident because you have not thought the process in advance. If you would have set your end goal to pull the girl home or get a date then you would have drawn a road map for all the steps needed. Then you would know exactly which direction to go after delivering your intended element. And who knows you might get a date out of your first set even if you have never opened a girl before. Why would you let it go? Who says you can't go on a date if you have not mastered the art of seduction.

When you go out next time to practice your intended element of the game push the set to the end goal after you have delivered your routine or whatever element you had in mind. Draw a road map from meeting a woman to reaching your end goal of getting her on a date or pulling her home. Please Please Please read the Social Mastery Book. I have laid all the steps and amazing techniques to accomplish what you want. 226 Pages and over three hours of video - That's a lot of information. You would never need any other product to learn how to attract women. Identify the steps of game from there, learn specific techniques then go out and push sets to the end.

Two things will happen either you will get your end goal or identify the area you need to work on to achieve your end goal.

Good Luck!

Do you pick a target?

Very often I observe that guys going into sets without selecting a target. Any girl who responds to them becomes their target. This is a horrible thing to do.

Most of the times it is the least attractive girl who ends up responding. By least attractive I do not mean just physical attractiveness. I mean least attractive by your standards whatever they may be. You then continue the set with her and wonder how you always end up with an average or a below average girl. She was not your type but you still continued that is why. The reason you hesitate to pick a target in advance is because you are not sure if the really hot one is going to talk to you and you do not want to get rejected.

By following this practice you are creating lot more problems for yourself:

• You are increasing your insecurity by telling yourself that the hot girl won't like you. If you really believe this, it is an inner game issue. Work on it. Make your self desirable. Dating and attracting women is an art. It is a skill. Just like you can earn a black belt with practice, you can learn to attract beautiful women with practice. However you have to be willing to get few bruises on the way.


• By settling for a less attractive woman or by compromising your standards you are hurting both yourself and the woman you end up spending time with. You know she is not your type and even if you get in a relation with her it won't go anywhere because you do not like her. So why waste your and her time. Now I am not suggesting to objectify women but don't be with her if you are really not that attracted to her.
  

Go and practice on the ones you really like. Don't be afraid to get rejected. Pay attention to your mistakes. Learn to calibrate and generate sexual tension. Master the steps of seduction from Social Mastery Book and put them to test. Practicing on the kind of girls you are attracted to is the only way you will improve.

Next time you go out you make sure you pick a target and run the attraction on her without any fear. Best case you will end up with her worst case you will master the skills to attract her kind down the road.

Cliif's List and David D Angelo

I am not sure what's going on with me but this is second time in this month that I am writing about someone one else. I just blogged about Bigsend's blog the other day and today I feel like sharing my thoughts about Clifford, the owner of Cliff's List.

I briefly met Clifford at David D's Man Transformation seminar where I was a guest speaker with Brad P. I was really impressed how down to earth and friendly this guy was. Considering one of the biggest seduction resource on this planet and the launch pad for David D I was expecting this guy to have his head up his ass. But he was super friendly and nice and that earned a lot of respect from me.

Now of course I was familiar with Cliff's List but had no idea that David D used to post on his site and it was there that he got the encouragement to publish his Double Your Dating Book. This is one list that I would recommend you should subscribe to or go regularly to read posts. The good thing about Cliff's List ,in my opinion, is that he is aggressively trying to get new and good posts on his site and in his news letters all the time. I mean David D and every other name in the community posts there or have posted at some point. What better place to go and read articles from your favorite guru or someone you are curious about.

Clifford if you ever read this good job buddy your contribution to the community is very valuable and helpful!

Wanna come to my room and do some coke?

Now before I go into details I want to make it absolutely clear that I do not do drugs and I do not endorse drugs or dating an addict. Do it at your own risk. This post is not even about being with a drug addict. I just want to clarify/interpret a statement that you will sometimes hear from women.

Sometimes when I take my students to Hollywood they come running to me ,leaving their set, saying she is a drug addict. I had another student called me couple days back with similar situation and so I decided that it is time to explain this once and for all.

Sometimes, especially in the Hollywood, you will run into a girl who might suggest going back to her room for some coke. This is her way of saying I am turned on, let's go to my room and have sex. Just like we say things like hey come over to my place, I want to show you my record collection, women in Hollywood sometimes end up saying come to my room for coke.

Us men like to ask a girl to come visit our place to share something with her like our music collection or wine collection or anything else. We try to convey her that we want to bond with them by sharing our passion. This is because we understand that women want to feel connected and share a bond. we use it to smoothly enter the sexual seduction phase. Similarly a woman knows that talking coke is the way to get a guy into her apartment without giving the game. She obviously won't sound very fun if she invites you to see her clothes collection or her makeup kit from France.

Asking you to come for coke also saves her the unnecessary trouble of bonding with you. So if a woman wants to have a one night stand she will try to avoid more emotional connection which can be formed by sharing personal feelings. She asking you to come to her place to check her photos or music collection makes it sound like doorway to relationship. But asking you to come to her room for some coke is simply an extension of the party from bar to her room for coke and no feelings are shared or involved here.

Talking about taking coke is also used by women sometimes to show that they are used to the high end Hollywood lifestyle. It is rare that you go to a big Hollywood party and not have drugs. Sometimes a woman talks about coke referring that she is part of the high end circle. Her intentions can only be judged by the person in the set. It all depends upon she raises the topic, in what context and what is her call to action from the reference.

Most of the time when you go to her room you will not find any drugs at all. Her excuse will be something like we'll go to an after party soon where we can do some coke. I just wanted to take a little break before we go. Now if you keep pushing her when do we go and where the party is---you are an idiot! For the party is right in front of you. Take her clothes off and enjoy the feast.

Coke is too expensive for a woman to share with some random guy. Now it is a different story if she asks for some coke from you. In this case her intention is more to get free coke than to sleep with you.

Now I am not judging any woman who does drugs. In fact I know a lot of beautiful and healthy women who have done drugs at some point in their life. So use your own judgement how you want to handle this but I just wanted to explain that when a woman asks you to go to her room for drugs she may actually be asking for something else. When in doubt take the safe road or ask more questions to clarify. It is always better to be safe than sorry!

Desi wife catches cheating husband

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Does your room stink?

There is no bigger turn off for a woman to inhale some rotten smell when you open the door to your house to welcome her. Now I know I am not your mommy and I shouldn't be talking about your hygiene and living situation but guys it is absolutely important that you have a clean and nice place.

Some time back I ended up going to a students house (this is before I started coaching professionally). As soon as he opened the door I felt nauseous. I wanted to throw up the smell was that bad. I step in and the first thing I see is his desktop screen saver with porn images on it. That did it for me. I usually am very polite and don't like to tell people on how they should live but I had to tell this guy and of course he did not appreciate that for I was not his coach.

He told me that he was expecting a girl in few hours. For her sake I hope she really flaked on this guy. Now I am not trying to put him down but I am making a point here. If I had such a bad impression as a csual visitor think how the woman would feel living in this place and having sex with the guy who owns this place.

Your room gives a very strong impression about you. This is where the woman starts to picture her in the long run with you. If she finds smelly trash, disorganized closets, bed sheets with stains on them and mould smell coming from your bathroom I don't need to tell you the thoughts that will go through her mind.

I am not suggesting to have fancy decor in your room but being unhygienic is no excuse. Your room should always look nice and smell good especially if you are going to have a woman over. Open the windows and let some fresh air come in. Expose your sheets and bedding to some sun light. There are studies that claim bedding's and covers are home to bacteria and they should be exposed to sunlight or put in dryer often to avoid allergies.

Vacuum the floor, wash keep the dishes away. This will put you in a good mood as well. Your environment has a direct effect on your thoughts and behavior. So do yourself a favor and live in a good environment. I have never had a woman come to my room and not compliment me. Even when I lived in dorm and had $30 to decorate my room. I bought some printed bed sheet and turned them into window drapes. Had nice clean bed and every thing was sitting in it's place. Every girl who came to my room told me they have never seen a guy keep their room this nice.

It never hurts to have a class. It leaves women with a strong impression of you. You come across as a guy who lives in style. If you get creative like I did, using bed sheet as drapes, they see you as a creative and a go getter. Remember your room discloses your identity. Make sure it is a good one. All you need to do is spend $50-60 to get some candles and other decorative material if you do not already have them. But use a little creativity and you may not even have to spend them.

Feel free to ask me or your friends questions about your room. It is also a good excuse to invite that girl to your room so she can help you decorate or take her to shop some decoratives for your room. I often ask women at stores to help me buy stuff.

Bigsend's Blog

Other day one of my student told me about a blog where he got mine added. Out of curiosity I ended up going to see whose blog it was and what he was talking about. It belongs to some guy who goes by the name Bigsend. I was pretty impressed with his blog. I really enjoyed some of the posts from bigsend. I noticed that there were 3-4 other guys who were posting there as well. I quickly glanced through their posts along with Bigsend's.

I have never met this guy and have no clue at all about who he is in real life or what he does. But I really enjoyed that he was very analytical and full of introspect. Lot of guys in the community are missing it. There was lot of inner game and motivational stuff as well. As a principle I never endorse any one's product or site and neither am I endorsing his right now (even though I really enjoyed it). I just wanted to share my experience and thoughts about this blog. But feel free to check it out if you want to read some cool posts. His blog is: http://bigsendworld.com/.

Everything Will Be Allright!

Have you read the lyrics of the song "middle" by Jimmy Eat World? It is one inspirational and motivating song. It reminds me of the time when I went against the tide. When some of my friends thought I was weird for wanting to learn about dating and relationships. I did not care. It was very important for me to learn how to establish sexual relationship with women. Not just so I can have sex with women but also because I like their company. I love their energy. I actually feel emotionally and physically charged when I spend time with women. So yes it was important for me to learn how to live a life where I get to spend intimate time with women and enrich my life with their presence.

Surely some of my friends at the time thought I was weird and stopped talking to me. They were embarrassed to be my friends. Though if you ask me I think they felt threatened. They were afraid that I will become better and so it was their way to punish me. I did not care. Once again I went forward to get what really mattered to me. It was tough. But as they say nothing worth getting comes easy.

I never stopped till I got what I wanted and I still have not stopped. I hope I never do. I want to keep getting better with my understanding of myself and my relationships. I want all my relationships of today and in future to blossom.

You can do it too. It will take some effort and some pain. You will have to ignore the temporary pain that comes in your way in the shape of few embarrassing moments, few friends walking away or even few humiliating experiences. If you keep working at it and stay focused I promise you it will be worth it. Your friends will not only return to you but most will return with two fold respect for you. Stay true to your dreams no matter how weird they sound to other people. I promise you everything else will work it's way out.

Here is the original video I found on you tube along with lyrics. I also found a cool animation video for this song so i am going to post it as well.

Enjoy!

Hey, don't write yourself off yet It's only in your head you feel left out or looked down on.

Just try your best, try everything you can.

And don't you worry what they tell themselves when you're away.

It just takes some time,little girl you're in the middle of the ride.

Everything (everything) will be just fine,everything (everything) will be alright (alright).

Hey, you know they're all the same.

You know you're doing better on your own, so don't buy in.Live right now.

Yeah, just be yourself. It doesn't matter if it's good enough for someone else.

It just takes some time,little girl you're in the middle of the ride.

Everything (everything) will be just fine,everything (everything) will be alright (alright).

It just takes some time,little girl you're in the middle of the ride.

Everything (everything) will be just fine,everything (everything) will be alright (alright).

Hey, don't write yourself off yet.It's only in your head you feel left out or looked down on.

Just do your best, do everything you can.And don't you worry what the bitter hearts are gonna say.

It just takes some time,little girl you're in the middle of the ride.

Everything (everything) will be just fine,everything (everything) will be alright (alright).

It just takes some time,little girl you're in the middle of the ride.

Everything (everything) will be just fine,everything (everything) will be alright (alright).

How I Use Teasing To Establish Frames! Part-2

Here is an example; I would sometimes ask a woman who would she chose between Mickey and Donald to have sex with? It of course starts with laughter and her reply “I don’t know”. I will persist and make her pick one. Then I will start to tease her that it is weird that she chose whoever she did. So let’s say she chose Mickey, I would tease her saying things like: “I cannot believe of all the things you chose that 2 inch midget Mickey. That is so gross. Eiooooo.

I wish you would have at least chosen Goofy (who I did not even mention in the options she had but it is fun so nobody cares) which would be the most accepted form of bestiality. Oh my God you are gross!” (Now remember I say this with lot of laughter and very comic tone. She should be absolutely clear this was a joke or things can get weird real quick). Sometimes I will even tell her it was a trap question just to harass her. So now she knows I like to tease.

At this point she might say things like but you only gave me two choices or I thought that was just a joke. I will address her by saying: “of course it was a joke but that does not mean I am not going to tease you. I am a big time teaser so get use to it. I am going to tease you for the rest of my life and I will always find something to tease you. I am very non judgmental and understand that these jokes are not real you.

Even if you would have picked Goofy I would have found something else to tease you. Take a good look at me (pointing to my extreme fashion) I am the last person who can judge anyone. But you know I hate boring relationships where people are serious. I want us to be like kids where we are teasing each other all the time but of course we don’t mean it. If I truly did not like you for who you are then I wouldn’t be spending time here with you. I am here with you because obviously I like you at some level. Just remember that and remember you are a dork for choosing Mickey.” I will give her a soft push, or show my tongue and then kiss her.

Then push her away teasing by saying “Now I know you are a dork and probably are already having kinky idea but sorry we are not having a threesome with Mickey. Snow white sure! Mickey NO WAY! Now we are back to teasing.

What I did here was I teased her. I set up a frame for our future. I told her we have a future together and that I see us having fun. I am non judgmental and want to do things that makes us laugh. I also told her that my words do not matter. I also convinced her that I like her that is why I am with her. The reason I did this is to make sure she does not get mixed messages. If I simply ended up teasing with the extreme level of teasing as in my example and do not address it the way I did sometimes a woman can get confused and feel embarrassed. This might stop her from expressing herself in future. If I give her an impression that she just got judged for her response than in future she will do everything in her power so you cannot judge her. Sometimes I might also make some slightly embarrassing statement about me or any other statement to bring myself to her level.

So the whole idea is to tease a woman as much as you can. This creates attraction and is lot of fun. It also helps women experience different level of emotions around you. Also not too many guys are funny so she ends up having a good time with you. You also use teasing to establish frame and talk about future. She also realizes that you are a laid back and fun person as opposed to most regular guys who are too focused to impress her with their well balanced conversation. Teasing also helps to escalate physically. Teasing is also a smooth way to transitioning into sex. Read the chapter on sex and watch the video embedded in the Social Mastery book again to refresh your memory. Just remember teasing is a win-win for both you and your date.

How I Use Teasing To Establish Frames! Part-1

I am a big time teaser. I tease everyone including my friends, family and girlfriends. I start teasing the minute I open the set and continue even after I break up (99% of my ex are really good friends with me).

The first thing I want to say is if you do not tease or if you do not tease enough start doing it. Teasing is the fastest way to attract women, getting physical with them, bonding and initiating sex. It helps build comfort. I often say that if you and your date start behaving like a 5 year old kid with each other then you are in. Our best memories are our childhood memories. As a child we always expressed our true emotions and sentiments no matter how crude they were. As we begin to grow we get under pressure from family and society to behave in certain fashion. We learn not to express our true emotions or sentiments under the threat of punishment and embarrassment. But somewhere inside we miss it.

When you go on a date or spend time with a woman try to create an environment where you both can act like kids. This way you both will feel that you can be yourself when you spend time with each other. She will feel she does not have to be proper; she can be honest and like a kid around you. This will make her feel comfortable with and around you. This is very powerful and useful tool when it comes to bonding and seducing women.

When you tease a woman make sure to acknowledge it often at least in the beginning of relationship till she gets used to it. If you don’t she might get confused and it could hurt your relation. Make sure she understands very clearly that when you call her not cool that it was a joke. You don’t want her leave thinking she is not cool or she will start to avoid you.


In the next part I will give you an example and demonstrate how I set up frames with teasing.

Is Your Past Affecting You? Part-6

Again people will form an impression of you not based on your actions but on intentions behind your actions. The choice is yours do you want to be Will Smith and Clint Eastwood or do you want to be a pain in the ass no good new celebrity? Just remember we all have inbuilt radars to detect your intentions and insecurity. You may be able to fool someone for a little while but you will have more problems in the long run.

In my opinion you should be very friendly and fun to hang out with. It is OK to talk about your accomplishments but be humble about it. Try and give credit to other people. try and make other people happy. This will shoot your value high in the set. When I speak of my success I always mention how everybody in this world has made it happened for me. If you have read my Social Mastery Book you must have noticed the two page acknowledgments because my book is a compilation of brilliant ideas given by other people. And I will always acknowledge that. The nice thing about this habit is your friends appreciate and contribute more value to your life and strangers respect you for being so humble.

Next I try to give respect and share space with women I want to attract. At times I even make statements that I admire their action for I would not have courage to do so and so. ( Be very careful with this statement for you do not want to come across as needy or a loser). I make this statement with the following intention in mind: I am a very powerful, successful and a confidant man. I am very happy in my life and do not need anything from anyone out of neediness. And now I want to tell you that I am very impressed with what you do and I admire you for that.

I Never use the word in the italics. My body language and tonality conveys my confidence and success part. ( Re-read the chapter on body language in Social Mastery Book if you are unsure of appropriate body language). Saying things like I am successful etc makes you sound insecure. When I convey the admiration with right body language and tonality the woman sees it as a true sign on appreciation. She now feels that you truly like what she does. This helps you establish comfort. She will never ask you again why do you like me because she now knows what you like about her besides her well shaped breasts.

When you go into a set address everyone. You are a secured well socially calibrated guy who talks to everyone. You are not intimidated by large groups. At the same time be respectful to other guys in the group including the ones who are trying to steal your woman. If you have more value than them they cannot take her away if you don't then practice to earn more value so they cannot take your girl away. Lot of guys try to AMOG.

In my opinion it is a very bad strategy to AMOG. You are placing too much importance in the woman. I always give compliments to the guys in the set even if they are trying to get her. A woman can see this. She notices that I am not fighting to win her over. She can notice that the other guy does not intimidate me. In fact by giving him a compliment I am telling him that I am more powerful than him to be able to grade him. When was the last time you saw a student grade his professor except for final evaluation. Even by paying a compliment you are displaying that you are more powerful than him and reserve the authority to grade other people. And if he tries to AMOG you at this point he will come across as total mis-calibrated person losing all value in the eyes of this woman.

My final word of advice: Do the exercises I mentioned here and also from the Social Mastery Book. Re read the chapter on body language. Go out and share your happiness power and status with other people including beautiful women so they can see you as a secured person and fall in love with you. Do all the exercises from the Social Mastery Book over an over. Watch the video included in the chapter on Myths of rejection - over and over. You follow my coaching and I assure you phenomenal success with beautiful women!

With great powers comes great responsibilities!

-Spider Man Movie ( not sure the original author of the quote)

Is Your Past Affecting You? Part-5

Now that you have discovered ways to feel confident and secure in few but very important areas of your life it is time to convey or display your personality to people including other women. Of course we all know that most women are generally attracted to successfully guy because success is generally associated with success and confidence. But if monetary or fiscal success was the only measurement women used then no struggling musician would ever get laid but we all know they get lot of attention from women. One reason is the musicians passion in their career and a visible proof that he is working to achieve success. This attracts women.

Most people start acting borderline arrogant when they want to convey success or power. They would pretend like they are the most important people. They learn never to give just so they are not perceived needy. They do not share space because they want to demonstrate they have the power to not share.

In my opinion if you really want to demonstrate power and success do the opposite of the list above. Share your space, be more polite and courteous. I always give my students the example of a beggar. Beggars don't give they take. When was the last time you saw a beggar giving to a rich guy? When was the last you a saw a rich guy taking from a beggar. But we all see on daily basis a rich man giving to a beggar. (By using the phrase rich man I am not indicating a millionaire but simply a guy more fortunate than the beggar.) We share what we have in abundance. By giving respect and power to other people you demonstrate you have enough power and respect to share.

A friend of mine works for a famous Hollywood studio. She always tell me that a new celebrity or a teenage artist are very hard to handle. They come into the studio and demand too much attention. They act like the whole world revolves around them. They command respect from everyone. She personally hates being around them or spending anytime with them. On the contrary, she mentions, she loves when Clint Eastwood or Will Smith makes an appearance to the studio. They are very warm, treat everyone with respect, and ask lot of questions to who ever they interact with. They try to make other people feel important. They do this because they are secure. they know they are famous and they do not need to remind anyone of the fact. On the contrary they want to make other people feel happy because they themselves are happy and fortunate.

People form an opinion of you not from what you do but how you do? A woman is not going to think you are needy because you bought her a drink but only if you bought her the drink with the expectation that now she has to spend time with you. In fact few months back I was coaching a student and did a demo set. It turned out that the girl I approached was celebrating her birthday that night. Later I sent a free round of drinks to her group which was only four people. Now I had no expectations from her when I sent the drinks so I did not come across as needy but a cool social guy.

Few weeks later I was coaching the same student at a different venue and a girl from that group came and opened me. (I could not recognize her and feel bad about it but unfortunately it is really hard to remember all the faces when you go out meeting women five nights a week). She then reminded me of the evening where I bought her cousin a drink for her Birthday. Not only did she remember me but she also remembered by students name and it brought his value up in the set that he was engaged in. So here is an example of how me buying drinks did not come across as needy instead it helped me build value.

I also think it is very important at this point to mention that you need to have boundaries. Once in a while a woman might try to push you and see if she can take advantage of you. You buy her a drink and she wants to see if you will buy her a bottle next followed by a house and a Ferrari. Say no to the next drink unless you want to do it out of your free will. Remember you are sharing at your free will and not because it is expected of you. She can think you are an asshole for not buying her the next drink but that is not your problem.

I will write the final part tomorow. In the mean while start working on this exercise as soon as possible.

Is Your Past Affecting You? Part-4

A big part of feeling happy is to love one self. This comes from admiration for self. Admiration for self comes from admiring the things we do, when we feel confident about our future. This is what the first part of my Social Mastery EBook is dedicated to and this is what I teach in my personal coaching session along with other skills to approach women. (If you haven't read it I highly recommend reading it. remember it comes with 60 days 100% money back guarantee)

You don’t have to be successful to feel successful. You have to believe that you are on the part to success. For this you need to have a detailed plan to achieve your goals. When you believe you will be successful it comes across in your body language, tonality etc. When people ask you questions you have more definite answers and this conveys that you know what you want. When you ask questions to self you have definite answers and this makes you feel confident and relaxed.

Here is an exercise that will help you feel confident about your career excerpted from Social Mastery E Book:

Take a piece of paper and define your primary goal.

• Write what you want to be in your life. It needs to be very specific like 'I want to be a sailor or a juggler'. Don't just say businessman or wealthy. If you want to be a businessman then you need to know details like 'I want to start a steel plant.'
  


• Once you know your goal, write down why you want to be who you want to be. For example: 1) I want to be a film maker because I believe films make statements. I want to be able to tell the world how rough my childhood was and how I survived. 2) I want to have a steel plant because there is a never ending demand of steel and I will always have business.
  


• Now write down where you are on the road to accomplishing your dreams. What steps you are taking to reach the goal? Are there any hurdles? How do you plan to overcome them? For example, 'I want to be a singer and so I go for auditions during day time. This prevents me from a stable day job so I am going to be a bartender to pay my bills until I hit it big.'
  


• How will you know when you reach this goal? A friend/mentor of mine owns one of the largest breweries in India. He started production with no roof. He had a goal measure that the day his monthly sales reached 10,000 crates he will be considered successful. He currently sells more than that each day. But you get the idea. You need a concrete measurement to know you have succeeded with the stated goal.
  


• How will you feel when you accomplish your goal?
  


• How will the world or people around you benefit when you reach your goal? IE: 1) I like to share my resources with friends. So when I have more resources I can help more friends. 2) I donate 10% of my income to an orphanage so when I make more money I will be able to contribute to bigger social causes. 3) My films will help people forget about their stress and have fun for the two hours while they are in the theater.

Do the same with your dating goals. Now you have definite goals and definite plan to follow. Read this every morning for the next 2-3 weeks and/or at night before going to bed so you can internalize it. Now when you go out you will be able to confidently present yourself and I will cover that in the next part. Some of you will also change your goals with time. At that point go back and the exercise again so you feel confident with your new goal.

Now when you go out to meet people or women you will overall feel accomplished or on the path to success. You know what your goals are and you know how to achieve them. There are two goals/needs or desires, whatever you wanna name them, that affect human beings strongly. First is the emotional need or the need to love and be loved. To be admired by other people and to feel wanted. The second is to be financially secure, earn respect in the professional field and have stability in life.

The above exercise if done as described will help you feel secure in both personal/emotional and financial/social arenas. Even if you are not there yet you know you will be because you have made a detailed plan. You have thought of alternates to reach your goal/s and you have an intermediate plan to support yourself while you work to accomplish your goal/s.

Now when you interact with people you will speak from a different place and a different perspective. You will be calm and at ease inside and this will reflect in your speech and body language.

I will continue tomorrow...

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When To Kiss A Girl

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Is Your Past Affecting You? Part-3

The next step is to get rid of your artificial behavior and become real. Whatever habit or shield you were using to hide your insecurity, let go of it. Sometime people try to act macho or super alpha so no one can pick on them any more. Sometime people become super pushy because they are tired of hearing No's. Some people start distancing themselves from every relation because they do not want to make a fool of themselves any more. Whatever you did get rid of it.

It is OK to be real. it is OK to get hurt. It is OK to feel vulnerable and it is absolutely OK to feel alive. Stop being robotic and close down. Experience new things in life. Take risks including the ones that might include the risk of making a fool of yourself. Stop worrying about what people have to say and live the life that makes you happy. When I was a kid, as part of my play routine, I used to enact scenes from the movies I watched. Sometimes my parents and their friends would laugh at my silliness but I was to young to understand the meaning of the word embarrassment. I was lost in my own world and continued despite their reaction. I used to be happy.

Then I grew up. I started to feel and experience embarrassment. I stopped doing everything that could cause me any embarrassment. As a result I hurt my self really bad. I failed at school, I failed in business, I failed in all kind relationships and failed in life in general. My life was so horrible that I tried to commit suicide. I was unhappy because I was not able to do things my way. trying to win every body's approval just wasn't working for me.

Things have changed now. I have once again become that little boy. I do not care for what other people think of me. I am pure in my heart and do not hurt anyone. Other than that what I do is my business and once again I sleep every night with a smile on my face.

When I moved to US I was getting no success with women. You must have already read in the Social Mastery book how I used to cry every night for I was suffering. I suffered for full two years because I did not have the courage to change things. Than I became a child again. I started to learn. Lot of my friends thought I was weird for trying to learn how to date women. Some of them stopped talking to me. Well guess what? Almost every friend who ridiculed me then now comes to me for advice. Yes once again I sleep with a huge smile on my face every night.

So stop worrying about other people. Act real. Be honest to yourself. If they do not like who you are it is their problem at least you will be happy. Do not hesitate to show the real you to women when you meet them. If you love yourself they will love you. When I tell my story to women they admire me for they see that I had the courage to change my life for good. So many people including hundreds of beautiful women suffer all the time but do not have the courage to change.

These women can admire me because I am open to let them see me. I am open to share my embarrassment with them and I am not ashamed of my past or present. This makes me more trustworthy and real. They can connect with me.

If you want true honest full filling relationships be honest and be open. Don't pretend to be someone else. Instead love who you are.

In the next part I will talk about how to appreciate who you are. I will also discuss how to present the real you so people can get to know and appreciate you.

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I saw this silly commercial and couldn't help but post it on my site. Really funny :)

Is Your Past Affecting You? Part-2

The first step now is to look into your past and make a list of negative experiences. Then think why they won't apply to you any more or what you need to do to not experience them again. For example you might say that I have now read the Social Mastery E-Book and know how to generate value. As a result women will date me and therefore I will have different results from the past. Or if you feel you have not taken enough steps to remedy it then take action. Read the book or take the coaching session or whatever help you need and from whoever. You do not have to buy my products or service just because you like to read my blog.

Remind yourself of the time or person who experienced positive results in the area that affects you negatively. May be you met a woman few months back and there was a spark (even if it did not go too far---remember you may not have the skills or the knowledge at the time to handle it). Then tell yourself if it happened then, it can happen again. You just need to understand the process and practice it. Or may be you look at someone like me and say if Magic can learn to be successful with women there is no reason why I can't. Then experience the magic of your new belief system.

Inner game is very important in order to succeed with women or any other field. My teachings here can be successfully applied to any area of your life like work, business, sports and networking etc. This is the reason why first part of my book helps you strengthen your Inner Game. The same thing I do in my workshops. If you have strong Inner Game you will have strong personality. If you have strong personality you will have strong presence. If you have strong presence you will have strong attraction. As a consequence you will have beautiful and healthy women in your life.

Use this exercise to improve any area of your life that makes you feel insecure. Repeat this exercise as often as you can.

I will continue with the topic in my next post.

Happy New Year Everyone!

Hope this year brings you lot of happiness, success, peace and prosperity! Oh and lot of beautiful women as well ;)

Is Your Past Affecting You? Part-1

Let go of your past! You will never be able to grow in any field if you continue to live under the shadow of your past. Things are changing - You are changing. Your life is improving. It is becoming better. This improvement is happening because you are making a conscious effort.

Like most of us here you probably have an upsetting past. You are probably used to getting rejected and not being wanted as much as you liked. You are probably used to girls giving you less attention, fake numbers or not showing up on dates. But that was your past. Lot has changed since then. You have learnt and put to practice so much material on social skills. (If you haven't then you should start right away.) You are bound to get different more positive experience soon if you haven't already. It just takes one positive experience for your new belief system to start forming and for the old one to shatter.

I see so many students not giving their 100% because they still do not believe in themselves. There is hesitation in their voice, body language and eye contact when they ask a girl on a date or for her number. They hesitate to initiate touching and there is hesitation when they go for the kiss. This hesitation is picked by the woman. This tells her you are not confidant and she backs off. If you do not believe in yourself why should anybody else?

You can also notice guys making similar mistakes when they are in the set or on the phone, email, text and date. They are very focused to be perfect and to ensure they make no mistakes. They shoot routine after routine, follow the training step by step like a robot but still often end up disappointed.

What happens is they try too hard and come across as flawless which tells women that something is wrong. Or they become the entertainer and do not establish harmony so there is no bonding. They do not gauge women's reactions so they miscalibrate.

I will post the solution in my next post.

Taking Short Cut

In our life we often think about taking shortcuts. I was just about to take one myself. I was a little frustrated with certain task related to my business. I wanted to get to the outcome sooner. In last few days I was thinking about accomplishing those tasks and decided that I will take a short cut. I decided to take some measures which I probably would not do or recommend others ordinarily. But because I was frustrated and impatient I was willing to make a compromise. I was willing to compromise my principals.

As always nature came to my rescue. It always does. (Yes I am a firm believer in nature and force.) Out of no where I decided to watch "How To Lose Friends & Alienate People". The movie is about successful people being so unhappy because they compromised their principals to succeed.

I couldn't be reminded of this message at a better time than today. I would have hated myself for the rest of my life had I taken this short cut to success. It suddenly dawned to me that I started coaching because I was tired of people who were compromising their principals and their students' success for personal gains. What difference will there be between me and them if I followed the same path.

Further I also realized that had I started taking short cuts I would have started to become outcome dependent and not enjoy the process. And I realize that I would have stepped on a downward spiral. If you truly want to do some activity in the long run you have to enjoy it in the process and not be outcome dependent.

In fact I teach this all the time. I insist in my book Social Mastery to not to take short cuts. I insist the same in my personal coachings. Had I taken the short cut today I would have never been able to look into someone's eyes said "do not take the short cut".

I am so thankful for I was saved from making this mistake. And as ashamed as I am I needed to blog about this for two reasons:

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   Because I wanted to set it in the open that I would never think about taking short cuts again.


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   I want all my students and followers of the blog to learn from this as well.

“Try not to become a man of success rather try to become a man of value.”

–Albert Einstein

Calibration

One of the areas that many students struggle is with their calibration. Many students approach sets as if they were blindfolded. They do not pay attention how the target is responding. They are so focused on delivering their routines and demonstrating value that they completely ignore the responses of their target. Sometimes they are too insecure to pay attention because they think what if she does not like what I am saying. Sometimes guys are too focused to prove how alpha and dominating they are. At other times they just want to be the funny guy so they can woo the woman with their charm.

Women pick up on this insecurity real quick. This often leads to sets dying, women walking away, or the set lasting for an hour but without buildup of any sexual tension.

The reason this happens is because students are too focused on practicing how to deliver routines. In their mind mastering perfect delivery of funny routines will get them the woman. This is partially true but there is a bigger fact that most men ignore or do not understand. A big part of the equation is building comfort with the woman you are attracted to. This starts by you feeling comfortable around beautiful woman. If you feel comfortable around her she will feel comfortable around you. If she shit tests you and you continue to regurgitate your high value routine you are mis-calibrating. If she is already attracted to you and you keep bringing her value down instead of showing her approval you have mis-calibrated again.

Calibration is timely and appropriate response to woman's action. If she teases you than you tease her back but if she says she loves you and wants to marry you do not tell her to add some color in her hair. A good way to practice calibration is to establish some platonic friendship with women. Now that you do not have to game them you will be responding to appropriately. You will pay attention to their words and sometimes the meaning behind their words. You will use this information to respond to them. Once you master calibration with friends incorporate into your sets and see how well your sets will progress.

Now you do not have to establish platonic friendship with women necessarily to master calibration. You can of course practice this in your sets but make sure you don't get too nervous, conscious or stressed when you are doing a set. Practicing calibration requires you are calm so you can listen and respond appropriately. This sometimes is hard for beginner students.

One Year Anniversary!

Today the day of Christmas is also the day Social Skills Institute was born! I had registered the domain exactly one year back on December 25, 2007. I did not even realize it until few weeks back when I was managing my domains.

It is a happy day for me and to share the happiness I have every downloadable product available for half the price just for today. Go to the product page by clicking here. Then select the product and email me the one you want and I will send you the link to download it for half the price.

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Holidays And Happy One Year Anniversary!

When is a set over?

A set is never over till it is over. I see many guys including some gurus who end up leaving the set at the first sign of a negative message. I discuss this in Social Mastery book. Women often give you negative message to see how you handle it. Are you confidant to continue or you will run at the sign of the first negative sign. This is there way to make sure you are truly a confidant guy and not some poser. This is also good news for you because this means she is starting to notice your traits and getting attracted to you.

This might sometimes happen right when you approach a woman. You use a canned opener and she busts you. Or she just decides to accuse you to be a player or a playboy. How you react will determine how far you will go with this woman. When a woman accuses you or catches you in the act. Be a man confess it, laugh at it and continue. Don't run, don't fidget and don't shake.

Few months back one of my student had to face the same situation. He opened a set and she just got opened with the same opener. I jumped into the set and handled the situation by confessing that yes it was a canned opener. I continued by saying " even if it was a cheesy, corny or over used line, I am still paying you a compliment. so need to be upset. It is not easy for us to approach women.". That was it. Everything changed. She apologized for her behavior and started touching me. I can write a book on my experiences where I have seen women turn around in a set after initial negative messages.

Remember you gain nothing by walking out of a set prematurely. Continue and let them walk away. If they are not interested in you they do not have to be around you. A woman who complains about something or gives you a negative message is either trying to test you or hoping you will take an alternate route and get her. Access the situation, use your judgement and respond.

It is never over until it is over.

Today's Women Are Sexually Open Minded

One of the main themes I explore in Social Mastery and in my coaching is that women are as confident as men. Today's woman live their their life to the fullest and desire sex as much as men do. I have posted an article in the archive section which discusses the study which revealed that women are as sexual as men. You can read it here.
Now a new study on myths of cheating reveals a similar theme. The study states:

"While baby-boomer men do cheat more, women in their 20s and 30s have
affairs just as frequently as men their age, according to new research. One
reason: More women are working. When you have a job, you've got more financial freedom, which could make you more comfortable taking a gamble with your
relationship".

You can read the complete article here.
This is another proof that men should not feel uncomfortable when getting sexual with women because most women want sex just as well. There is no need to hide your sexual desires and play games. If you want an open relationship or date multiple women or have sex in the public bathroom chances are she wants it too.

Free Hour Long Video On Kino Escalation!

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Mistakes beginners make while entering in a bar!

I see many beginners making a common mistake when they first enter a bar or any other social venue. They will stop right away look into every woman's eyes to see who responds well. Then they will go to the bar get their drink and start approaching women or not.

This is a very wrong thing to do. You lose value instantly in the eyes of women. This is because your scan almost comes across as approval seeking. You come across insecure. It almost conveys that "If a woman responds well then I will approach". Now I am not suggesting to not to make eye contact with women. Making eye contact is very powerful and you should always do it. I am simply mentioning not to make eye contact with every woman while scanning the venue. It comes across as knocking on every door hoping one will open. This is bad game.

When I enter a bar or any other social value I pause briefly upon entry and scan the environment of the room. I don't make eye contact for I don't care who is there. By pausing I let everyone notice my entry while I scan the room. Make sure you have strong body language at this time. Generally you will notice women and also notice which one is checking you out using your peripheral vision. Then you can either go to the bar and get a drink or start talking to the group most immediate to you. This looks powerful. You have given women time to notice you. You have showed no interest in them so you are there to have a good time and not just get laid. You are not afraid of the crowd and attention for you stop right at a place where everyone can notice you and this not bother you. This shows you are confidant and alpha. After that it seems very natural that you are talking to whoever comes your way and in the process you meet this woman.

I also want to caution that I am not suggesting you be ashamed of your intention to meet women or try to hide it. I am just trying to help you not come across needy.

Hope this helps!

P.S. If you are a beginner I highly recommend you to start talking to the very first group and as many groups as you can. This way you come across social and not prowling for women.

Twitter

Guys I also ended up joining twitter so I can stay in touch with everyone from the road. Meet me on my twitter: http://twitter.com/bestdatingtips

Absence

Sorry I had been absent for a while. I had way too many things going from my uncle's surgery to starting my company. things are starting to settle down and I should be able to post regularly from now on.

Fashion

In this episode I have explained how you can use fashion to attract beautiful women. The fashion industry has already spent money to make certain looks sexy. All we have to do is adopt those looks so girls are attracted to us.

iTunes

Hey Guys,
I have a good news. My iTunes account just got approved. So from now on you will be able to download my free dating, attraction and seduction tips from iTunes. Trust me it wasn't easy getting it up there but worth all the effort :)

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Enjoy!