Sunday, January 11, 2009

Is Your Past Affecting You? Part-6

Again people will form an impression of you not based on your actions but on intentions behind your actions. The choice is yours do you want to be Will Smith and Clint Eastwood or do you want to be a pain in the ass no good new celebrity? Just remember we all have inbuilt radars to detect your intentions and insecurity. You may be able to fool someone for a little while but you will have more problems in the long run.

In my opinion you should be very friendly and fun to hang out with. It is OK to talk about your accomplishments but be humble about it. Try and give credit to other people. try and make other people happy. This will shoot your value high in the set. When I speak of my success I always mention how everybody in this world has made it happened for me. If you have read my Social Mastery Book you must have noticed the two page acknowledgments because my book is a compilation of brilliant ideas given by other people. And I will always acknowledge that. The nice thing about this habit is your friends appreciate and contribute more value to your life and strangers respect you for being so humble.

Next I try to give respect and share space with women I want to attract. At times I even make statements that I admire their action for I would not have courage to do so and so. ( Be very careful with this statement for you do not want to come across as needy or a loser). I make this statement with the following intention in mind: I am a very powerful, successful and a confidant man. I am very happy in my life and do not need anything from anyone out of neediness. And now I want to tell you that I am very impressed with what you do and I admire you for that.

I Never use the word in the italics. My body language and tonality conveys my confidence and success part. ( Re-read the chapter on body language in Social Mastery Book if you are unsure of appropriate body language). Saying things like I am successful etc makes you sound insecure. When I convey the admiration with right body language and tonality the woman sees it as a true sign on appreciation. She now feels that you truly like what she does. This helps you establish comfort. She will never ask you again why do you like me because she now knows what you like about her besides her well shaped breasts.

When you go into a set address everyone. You are a secured well socially calibrated guy who talks to everyone. You are not intimidated by large groups. At the same time be respectful to other guys in the group including the ones who are trying to steal your woman. If you have more value than them they cannot take her away if you don't then practice to earn more value so they cannot take your girl away. Lot of guys try to AMOG.

In my opinion it is a very bad strategy to AMOG. You are placing too much importance in the woman. I always give compliments to the guys in the set even if they are trying to get her. A woman can see this. She notices that I am not fighting to win her over. She can notice that the other guy does not intimidate me. In fact by giving him a compliment I am telling him that I am more powerful than him to be able to grade him. When was the last time you saw a student grade his professor except for final evaluation. Even by paying a compliment you are displaying that you are more powerful than him and reserve the authority to grade other people. And if he tries to AMOG you at this point he will come across as total mis-calibrated person losing all value in the eyes of this woman.

My final word of advice: Do the exercises I mentioned here and also from the Social Mastery Book. Re read the chapter on body language. Go out and share your happiness power and status with other people including beautiful women so they can see you as a secured person and fall in love with you. Do all the exercises from the Social Mastery Book over an over. Watch the video included in the chapter on Myths of rejection - over and over. You follow my coaching and I assure you phenomenal success with beautiful women!

With great powers comes great responsibilities!
-Spider Man Movie ( not sure the original author of the quote)