Do you persist with passion or have you become an entertainer? Generally speaking your approach will not lead to any success if you do not persist and show passion. Students who have been in the community for some time have unfortunately developed some bad habits. Not showing passion or lack of persistence is definitely among them.
Many students have been taught that persisting and showing passion is a sign of neediness. They have been told that they should demonstrate a non caring attitude. I do not agree that passion and persistence is neediness. A confident guy can be passionate and persistent. Watch any movie which depicts the story of medieval time. You will notice that the prince or the lead would be passionate and persistent yet non needy. Few names that comes to my mind are "The First Knight" and "Shakespeare in Love". Watch the performance of Richard Gere and Joseph Fiennes in these movies. You will witness passionate and persistent characters who are non needy.
Being passionate is a wonderful quality. There is a reason why 11 out of 10 movies have passion in them. And guys who do not persist actually come across as insecure as oppose to confidant. So a woman says she does not like you touching her and you leave or she says she has a boyfriend and you leave shows you do not care in a wrong way.
8 out of 10 girls I have dated in the past were in a relationship when I met them. It did not bother me that they were seeing someone else and it did not stop me from persisting. In my mind I thought: "I am attracted to you. I will do what it takes to make you mine and you will not let it happen if you don't want it to happen. But you having a boyfriend is not my problem and I will persist."
Now remember there is a difference between persistence and stalking. I wouldn't start stalking her or embarrass her under the pretext of persistence. This is a topic in itself and some day I will blog about the differences between persistence and neediness/stalking.
The thing that I want you to take from this post is that stop being the entertainer. Yes it is good to have fun and laughter but also be serious. reveal your agenda to get her and then push things to make it happen. There is no shame in wanting a woman. You are only paying her compliments with this behavior. Just make sure not to make her feel embarrassingly uncomfortable. If you do this she will see a man in you even if she does not sleep with you. You will notice her flirting with you will never end. She will get turned on every time she sees you. And she will thank you for making her feel like a woman, for making her feel desirable and for paying her compliments.
So many times it is simply your persistence that will get the girl. So don't be afraid to persist with passion and stop being the entertainer.
Good Luck!
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