Here is an example; I would sometimes ask a woman who would she chose between Mickey and Donald to have sex with? It of course starts with laughter and her reply “I don’t know”. I will persist and make her pick one. Then I will start to tease her that it is weird that she chose whoever she did. So let’s say she chose Mickey, I would tease her saying things like: “I cannot believe of all the things you chose that 2 inch midget Mickey. That is so gross. Eiooooo.
I wish you would have at least chosen Goofy (who I did not even mention in the options she had but it is fun so nobody cares) which would be the most accepted form of bestiality. Oh my God you are gross!” (Now remember I say this with lot of laughter and very comic tone. She should be absolutely clear this was a joke or things can get weird real quick). Sometimes I will even tell her it was a trap question just to harass her. So now she knows I like to tease.
At this point she might say things like but you only gave me two choices or I thought that was just a joke. I will address her by saying: “of course it was a joke but that does not mean I am not going to tease you. I am a big time teaser so get use to it. I am going to tease you for the rest of my life and I will always find something to tease you. I am very non judgmental and understand that these jokes are not real you.
Even if you would have picked Goofy I would have found something else to tease you. Take a good look at me (pointing to my extreme fashion) I am the last person who can judge anyone. But you know I hate boring relationships where people are serious. I want us to be like kids where we are teasing each other all the time but of course we don’t mean it. If I truly did not like you for who you are then I wouldn’t be spending time here with you. I am here with you because obviously I like you at some level. Just remember that and remember you are a dork for choosing Mickey.” I will give her a soft push, or show my tongue and then kiss her.
I wish you would have at least chosen Goofy (who I did not even mention in the options she had but it is fun so nobody cares) which would be the most accepted form of bestiality. Oh my God you are gross!” (Now remember I say this with lot of laughter and very comic tone. She should be absolutely clear this was a joke or things can get weird real quick). Sometimes I will even tell her it was a trap question just to harass her. So now she knows I like to tease.
At this point she might say things like but you only gave me two choices or I thought that was just a joke. I will address her by saying: “of course it was a joke but that does not mean I am not going to tease you. I am a big time teaser so get use to it. I am going to tease you for the rest of my life and I will always find something to tease you. I am very non judgmental and understand that these jokes are not real you.
Even if you would have picked Goofy I would have found something else to tease you. Take a good look at me (pointing to my extreme fashion) I am the last person who can judge anyone. But you know I hate boring relationships where people are serious. I want us to be like kids where we are teasing each other all the time but of course we don’t mean it. If I truly did not like you for who you are then I wouldn’t be spending time here with you. I am here with you because obviously I like you at some level. Just remember that and remember you are a dork for choosing Mickey.” I will give her a soft push, or show my tongue and then kiss her.
Then push her away teasing by saying “Now I know you are a dork and probably are already having kinky idea but sorry we are not having a threesome with Mickey. Snow white sure! Mickey NO WAY! Now we are back to teasing.
What I did here was I teased her. I set up a frame for our future. I told her we have a future together and that I see us having fun. I am non judgmental and want to do things that makes us laugh. I also told her that my words do not matter. I also convinced her that I like her that is why I am with her. The reason I did this is to make sure she does not get mixed messages. If I simply ended up teasing with the extreme level of teasing as in my example and do not address it the way I did sometimes a woman can get confused and feel embarrassed. This might stop her from expressing herself in future. If I give her an impression that she just got judged for her response than in future she will do everything in her power so you cannot judge her. Sometimes I might also make some slightly embarrassing statement about me or any other statement to bring myself to her level.
So the whole idea is to tease a woman as much as you can. This creates attraction and is lot of fun. It also helps women experience different level of emotions around you. Also not too many guys are funny so she ends up having a good time with you. You also use teasing to establish frame and talk about future. She also realizes that you are a laid back and fun person as opposed to most regular guys who are too focused to impress her with their well balanced conversation. Teasing also helps to escalate physically. Teasing is also a smooth way to transitioning into sex. Read the chapter on sex and watch the video embedded in the Social Mastery book again to refresh your memory. Just remember teasing is a win-win for both you and your date.
What I did here was I teased her. I set up a frame for our future. I told her we have a future together and that I see us having fun. I am non judgmental and want to do things that makes us laugh. I also told her that my words do not matter. I also convinced her that I like her that is why I am with her. The reason I did this is to make sure she does not get mixed messages. If I simply ended up teasing with the extreme level of teasing as in my example and do not address it the way I did sometimes a woman can get confused and feel embarrassed. This might stop her from expressing herself in future. If I give her an impression that she just got judged for her response than in future she will do everything in her power so you cannot judge her. Sometimes I might also make some slightly embarrassing statement about me or any other statement to bring myself to her level.
So the whole idea is to tease a woman as much as you can. This creates attraction and is lot of fun. It also helps women experience different level of emotions around you. Also not too many guys are funny so she ends up having a good time with you. You also use teasing to establish frame and talk about future. She also realizes that you are a laid back and fun person as opposed to most regular guys who are too focused to impress her with their well balanced conversation. Teasing also helps to escalate physically. Teasing is also a smooth way to transitioning into sex. Read the chapter on sex and watch the video embedded in the Social Mastery book again to refresh your memory. Just remember teasing is a win-win for both you and your date.
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