Now before I go into details I want to make it absolutely clear that I do not do drugs and I do not endorse drugs or dating an addict. Do it at your own risk. This post is not even about being with a drug addict. I just want to clarify/interpret a statement that you will sometimes hear from women.
Sometimes when I take my students to Hollywood they come running to me ,leaving their set, saying she is a drug addict. I had another student called me couple days back with similar situation and so I decided that it is time to explain this once and for all.
Sometimes, especially in the Hollywood, you will run into a girl who might suggest going back to her room for some coke. This is her way of saying I am turned on, let's go to my room and have sex. Just like we say things like hey come over to my place, I want to show you my record collection, women in Hollywood sometimes end up saying come to my room for coke.
Us men like to ask a girl to come visit our place to share something with her like our music collection or wine collection or anything else. We try to convey her that we want to bond with them by sharing our passion. This is because we understand that women want to feel connected and share a bond. we use it to smoothly enter the sexual seduction phase. Similarly a woman knows that talking coke is the way to get a guy into her apartment without giving the game. She obviously won't sound very fun if she invites you to see her clothes collection or her makeup kit from France.
Asking you to come for coke also saves her the unnecessary trouble of bonding with you. So if a woman wants to have a one night stand she will try to avoid more emotional connection which can be formed by sharing personal feelings. She asking you to come to her place to check her photos or music collection makes it sound like doorway to relationship. But asking you to come to her room for some coke is simply an extension of the party from bar to her room for coke and no feelings are shared or involved here.
Talking about taking coke is also used by women sometimes to show that they are used to the high end Hollywood lifestyle. It is rare that you go to a big Hollywood party and not have drugs. Sometimes a woman talks about coke referring that she is part of the high end circle. Her intentions can only be judged by the person in the set. It all depends upon she raises the topic, in what context and what is her call to action from the reference.
Most of the time when you go to her room you will not find any drugs at all. Her excuse will be something like we'll go to an after party soon where we can do some coke. I just wanted to take a little break before we go. Now if you keep pushing her when do we go and where the party is---you are an idiot! For the party is right in front of you. Take her clothes off and enjoy the feast.
Coke is too expensive for a woman to share with some random guy. Now it is a different story if she asks for some coke from you. In this case her intention is more to get free coke than to sleep with you.
Now I am not judging any woman who does drugs. In fact I know a lot of beautiful and healthy women who have done drugs at some point in their life. So use your own judgement how you want to handle this but I just wanted to explain that when a woman asks you to go to her room for drugs she may actually be asking for something else. When in doubt take the safe road or ask more questions to clarify. It is always better to be safe than sorry!
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